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Comment on Separation/Divorce: Perspective by James Ryan

James Ryan — Wed, 16 May 2012 00:52:43 +0000

Thanks Ada, I’m glad you can keep sending me information that is helpful, your truly
a kind person and a friend, thanks Jim

Comment on Separation/Divorce: Hoist With Your Own Petard by Heidi Bernstein-Krantz

Heidi Bernstein-Krantz — Tue, 15 May 2012 14:19:34 +0000

Another wonderful blog Ada! Yes, you and I face many similar challenges with our clients, as a Life Coach, I am often working to empower divorcing client to “get out of their own way!” We try our best to illuminate the opportunity in change, but this is excruciatingly difficult for many. So, I’m with you – “leave the petard at home” – LOL – so perfectly put in your blog!

Comment on Separation/Divorce: Star Trek Wisdom by Heidi Bernstein-Krantz

Heidi Bernstein-Krantz — Thu, 19 Apr 2012 00:16:02 +0000

Extremely wise as usual Ada, it often takes clients way too long to realize the truth that you brought out from Star Treck. Lets continue to work hard to spread and impart this philosophy! Terrific blog as always!

Comment on Separation/Divorce: Star Trek Wisdom by Rev. Judith Laxer

Rev. Judith Laxer — Thu, 12 Apr 2012 15:01:20 +0000

I love how life imitates art, or in this case, how art imitates life! Great job using this popular source to make a beautiful point!

Comment on Separation/Divorce: My Lawyer Said . . . by Steven Ciantro

Steven Ciantro — Fri, 23 Mar 2012 15:03:06 +0000

As usual a very relevant article. Of course I relate everything back to credit counseling,and debt relief. Many times consumers will say, I need to run this by my Attorney or accountant. Once this happens, I can pretty much conclude that the client will be given advice by someone who does not have a clue about debt relief programs. Unfortunately, that usually includes Bankruptcy Attorneys. Most Attorneys simply have no training in any of the various debt relief programs that are available, and yes, that includes most Bankruptcy Attorneys. What debt relief approach is taken must be dependent on all the relevant circumstances of a consumers financial life. E.g. I have seen to many horror stories of Bankruptcies being filed when they should not have been. When my wife and I were going through our own financial crises, we turned to Attorneys for assistance. I can honestly tell you that the best advice we received was free and given to us by two retiring Attorneys who told us we might be better off educating ourselves and then fighting the battle ourselves, they even told us where to start, which is what we did, and it worked,

Comment on Separation/Divorce: My Lawyer Said . . . by Stephen G Anderson

Stephen G Anderson — Fri, 23 Mar 2012 08:54:48 +0000

Nice piece, Ada. If my clients reach an impasse, I may ask them to come back to the next meeting with a brief note of their lawyer’s advice on the matter. I am not that surprised when the written advice is quite different to their previous representatin of it, and the difference between the couple is not as great, therefore, as they had previously thought.

Comment on Separation/Divorce: Irked by Sandra Jo Lane

Sandra Jo Lane — Sat, 17 Mar 2012 03:51:08 +0000

Really enjoyed reading what you wrote. Find myself peeved, especially, too, by the use of “li-berry” and the reluctance to carefully and conscientiously enunciate “library”. Often wonder at the carelessness…

Frequently think of issues with my patients which make little sense – comparable to the settlement on quarter of a million dollar components, and struggling simultaneously over the equivalent of one hundred dollars…

Understanding of some of the less sensible things we do comes slowly – but, we all don’t make sense all the time – thank you for the thoughtfulness!

Comment on Separation/Divorce: Star Trek Wisdom by Roberta Faulhaber

Roberta Faulhaber — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 22:14:55 +0000

Hello,

One of my favorite episodes, I believe from Season 1 of Star Trek The Next Generation, where a deaf mediator who spoke through his telepathic “chorus” finds himself without his chorus, who are killed during a mediation session, but who follows his own principle of turning a disadvantage into an advantage by deciding to teach sign language to the two opposing parties seeking peace, thus bypassing their failed communication styles to learn how to speak in a new way…
Now how to apply this to divorce, well, I don’t know!

Comment on Separation/Divorce: Star Trek Wisdom by Daniel Burns

Daniel Burns — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 19:41:11 +0000

Having never watched Star Trek I never knew how deep it took the viewer. Kudo’s to you, Ada, for seeing how the needs of the many are met when the mediator helps a couple see beyond their own pain. You took us where no one else has gone!

Comment on Separation/Divorce: Irked by Steven Ciantro

Steven Ciantro — Thu, 23 Feb 2012 21:24:59 +0000

You are correct. We all have our share of personal quirks, likes and dislikes. I encounter
these same issues when helping people to try and think rationally about their debt issues, not always easy.We all would do well to strive for a live and let live approach to life.
I hope this made sense.