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How a Mediation Can Sometimes Feel Like Watching The Weather Channel
Ada L. Hasloecher2017-01-24T05:11:33-05:00Categories: Divorce/Separation Emotions, Family & Divorce, General, Mediation Process, Perspective, Separation & Divorce Mediation, Two|Tags: Ada Hasloecher, Agreement, Communication, Divorce, Divorce Financial Planning, Divorce Mediation, Keeping Focused During Mediation, Mediation, Mediation Flexibility, Overwhelmed by Divorce, Separation Agreements, The Weather Channel|4 Comments
Ada, I love that. EVERY night, my wife and I experience the same thing. The forecaster spends so long reviewing what the weather has been like, that we completely miss the actual forecast. So funny, but a great way of helping us understand that our mediation participants may be experiencing something quite similar. Thanks.
I’m sorry, what is today’s weather 😉
My experience is that as the information is coming at them, what appears as though they are zoning out is actually their minds kicking in multiple sub-routines that get them thinking about the ramifications and scenarios of each of these topics. While they have most certainly given thought to these prior to the meeting, and perhaps discussed them with friends, family, and even each other, having it put out there by “an authority figure” somehow turns on the light. This can result in a moment of vulnerability for them. What is often beneficial is to then spend time talking about the topics, the logistics, how they feel, etc. It is a good way to gather very important information early in the process.
Those lucky clients of yours! If more professionals were sensitive to the “Weather Channel Syndrome,” they could really facilitate a smoother journey. I love the synergies between mediation and coaching, which is what I do. We are on the client’s agenda, not our own. While we encourage and empower moving forward, we take it one step at a time, on each client’s individual time table. Cheers to non-glazed over eyes! LOL!
Very true Ada, and I like your solution!!!