Separation/Divorce: In A Client’s Own Words: Why Mediation?

Ada,
What a wonderful story! It brings tears to my eyes. It is of course also an incredible testament to your abilities and the way you helped them handle their initial separation.
Yes mediation is the way but choosing the right mediator as well!!!
It would be so nice if more clients found their way back together through the mediation process.
Best,
Jennifer

Ada.

A beautiful story and very much what I believe we mediators believe: Mediation can change the way people feel and interact with each other. Even those couples who do not remarry can be helped through mediation to work together as a team in parenting their children.

Thank you for writing about this wonderful couple.
Congratulations on a job well done,

Kate

Hi Ada,

This story is heartening and reflective of the possibilities that emerge when space is created for open, honest and respectful dialogue. It is within that atmosphere, which you provided, that this couple seemed to have understood each other at a deeper level.

When my clients present their interest in separation or divorce, I always ask if they have had marital counseling or worked in other ways to strengthen their marriage, and if they are interested in such intervention before turning to divorce. When they are on the fence, I offer a discernment process to them to see what they have to build upon and to open deeper communication. If they avail themselves of this, regardless of their ultimate decision, they will have explored how to communicate in a way that helps them perceive each other’s views, feelings and needs in a way that will help them sustain a more amicable and respectful relationship.

Thanks, Ada, for sharing this happy story and for all the passion you bring to your work.

Gail