Separation/Divorce: “Raking Over the Coals”

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Ada L. Hasloecher2017-01-24T05:11:41-05:00Categories: Divorce/Separation Emotions, Family & Divorce, Mediation Process, Perspective, Separation & Divorce Mediation, Three|Tags: Ada Hasloecher, Amicable Divorce, Divorce, Divorce and Family, Divorce and Family Mediation Center, Divorce Mediation, Equitable Distribution|2 Comments

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Heidi Bernstien-Krantz October 13, 2011 at 5:42 pm

Extremely well said as always Ada! Fabulous creativity and insight. When I coach clients, I find that the more involved they become in creating a new life for themselves, the less committed they become to “raking over the coals.”
Steven Ciantro October 16, 2011 at 5:17 pm

This is a very interesting article. In today’s society one of the things that
makes separation more difficult is how much debt has accrued during the marriage.
With today’s divorce rates being so high, couples might want to consider that one of the additional bonuses of living a debt free life during marriage, is that the fact is
it will make seperating much easier should that time ever come.

"Almost from the date we signed the Settlement Agreement, it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. For the first time in I don’t know how many years, Brenda and I can have a conversation that is not fraught with tension. We can talk peacefully and respectfully to each other - it’s easier to be kind because the hostility is gone. I am not sure if the word “friends” applies but I would say the caring remains, and I am able to be supportive without taking ownership of problems and challenges. I am pleased to say that Brenda has become more than serviceably competent, even in the matter of her finances which she agonized over so profusely. I again thank you for all you did in helping us get through one of the hardest things either of us had to do. There is a peaceful life on the other side. I am glad to say that I am quite pleased that we can both live our lives now without the rancor and animosity. You did a yeoman’s work on our behalf and I, for one am grateful."

Mark H.

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