Thoughts on Pre-Cana and How it Relates to Mediation

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Ada L. Hasloecher2017-01-24T05:11:35-05:00Categories: Children & Divorce, Divorce/Separation Emotions, Family & Divorce, Finances & Divorce, General, Marital Mediation, Parenting, Perspective, Separation & Divorce Mediation, Two|Tags: Communication, Marriage, Marriage Preparation, Pre-Cana|3 Comments

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Sig Cohen October 4, 2012 at 5:51 pm

Ada,
This blog is inspiring. One of my dearest friends is a minister on Capitol Hill where I live. He’s described his pre-marital classes that couples (whom he will marry) must go through. It’s a rigorous multi-class training. Based on your blog, I’m going to ask
him whether I could talk with couples whom he counsels. After mediating maybe hundreds of divorces it’s clear couples need to know in advance the wreckage a divorce can impose on them.
Thanks for sharing a marvelous idea.

Sig Cohen
Halee Burg October 9, 2012 at 7:42 am

Ada,

I think Sig is right on with his reply – I think couples would benefit greatly from knowing more about the impacts of divorce, the challenges and benefits of communicating successfully, and about how mediation can support couples, in a non-therapeutic way, when they are struggling around specific issues/problems in their marriage on which they can not agree. Will look forward to Part II of the blog post.

Halee Burg
Zynub October 24, 2012 at 1:18 pm

Interesting article. I wonder how the classes and process work. How “real” can they make married life to soon to be married couples?

"Almost from the date we signed the Settlement Agreement, it was like a weight was lifted off my shoulders. For the first time in I don’t know how many years, Brenda and I can have a conversation that is not fraught with tension. We can talk peacefully and respectfully to each other - it’s easier to be kind because the hostility is gone. I am not sure if the word “friends” applies but I would say the caring remains, and I am able to be supportive without taking ownership of problems and challenges. I am pleased to say that Brenda has become more than serviceably competent, even in the matter of her finances which she agonized over so profusely. I again thank you for all you did in helping us get through one of the hardest things either of us had to do. There is a peaceful life on the other side. I am glad to say that I am quite pleased that we can both live our lives now without the rancor and animosity. You did a yeoman’s work on our behalf and I, for one am grateful."

Mark H.

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