You are currently browsing comments. If you would like to return to the full story, you can read the full entry here: ““We’ve Got It All Worked Out” and Other Myths”.
“We’ve Got It All Worked Out” and Other Myths
Ada L. Hasloecher2019-02-13T21:05:57-05:00Categories: Children & Divorce, Divorce/Separation Emotions, Family & Divorce, Finances & Divorce, General, Mediation Process, One, Perspective, Separation & Divorce Mediation|Tags: Ada Hasloecher, Divorce, Divorce and Family, Divorce and Family Mediation Center, Divorce Mediation, Mediation, Mediator, Parenting Plan, Separation Agreements, Settlement Agreement, Stipulation of Settlement|4 Comments
Great article. I can’t tell you how many times I hear “this will the easiest mediation you ever had.” Rarely is that the case.
I agree. There are literally hundreds of details to be covered before a Marital Settlement Agreement is complete. The average person gets divorced once. There is no way they could ever think of all the thinks that a trained mediator will cover. All the best, Elinor
I have seen both extremes. One couple who thought they had everything worked out had not even thought about 23 of the 25 big questions they needed to answer. Retirement accounts? Who gets what furniture? Tax exemptions for the kids? College planning? And so on. Another couple truly had done their research, gotten advice from attorneys, and made decisions about almost all of the matters they needed to decide. Our sole meeting lasted about two hours, spent mostly on two previously unresolved questions. That was all they needed.
Excellent points. I hear this most strongly from the spouse who is making the initial call to setup the their first appointment. They’re eager to just be done with it and need some help understanding that’s just not how it works!