Apologies — Part 2 (video)

Thank you, Ada, for continuing your discussion of apologizing. Your own authenticity is so much a part of who you are, and that’s what makes you such an amazing human being! Asking the other person, to whom the apology is given, to please let you know when you repeat the same (or similar) hurtful words or action in the future (which is so likely to happen, because we all tend to repeat long-established patterns), and asking this in a totally open and authentic way, is key to you and that other person reaching a new level of trust and forgiveness. Sadly, so many people find it very difficult to admit wrong-doing and to reflect on the feedback the other person can give them, and so many people find it very hard to forgive and to acknowledge that they may have contributed to the unfortunate negative interaction. Be that as it may, your suggestion of asking to be reminded when you screw up again, and of being open to that information when it is given, is crucial to healing the wound and moving to a better place in the relationship– both in our professional work and in our personal lives. Thanks, Ada!