Separation/Divorce: In A Client’s Own Words: Why Mediation?

I love sharing stories like this.  It not only warms the hearts of those of us who have chosen this wonderful profession, but it also serves as hope for those who may be asking themselves if the mediation process makes sense for them.

The following is an email I received from a former client.  Aside from changing their names to protect their privacy, I’ve made a few minor adjustments to assist in the flow of the exchange he and I had with each other.  This is truly an unsolicited testimony for mediation.

Hi Ada,

You might remember me.  Sally and I divorced about four years ago.  Well, she tried desperately to find a better man but, apparently failed, so she took me back – lol!

You might want to advise any separating party that IF they have any chance of getting back their spouse, a reasonable settlement and attitude is critical.  Sally always felt that although she wanted the divorce, I did not create any animosity or have a vindictive attitude towards her.  She actually saw a better side of me than I think she anticipated.  She was also agreeable to reasonable offers.  I understood that she had to protect her interests and I believe I provided reasonable cooperation.

Well, we moved back in together over a year ago.  The first attempt prior to that did not go well, but we always knew that we needed more healing and gave it a second try.  Last month we toured Europe – London, Paris, Germany, Switzerland, and Italy.  We renewed our vows in Lake Como (wedding gown, tux, the works!) and this weekend we are having a celebration at our house with close friends and family.  Our three boys are elated and are comforted knowing that our family is intact.

This might not be for everyone as some divorces are necessary for people to lead a full life.  You were very friendly and professional which kept the conversations amicable and the door open for a future relationship.  I thought you would want to know about this happy ending.  Hope this finds you well.

Sincerely,

Harry

I could not stop smiling as I read Harry’s email.  I immediately wrote back, congratulated them and asked if he would be willing to allow me to share his email as a testimonial.

He readily agreed:

Ada,  I would be honored if you used my case.  It is a reason to use mediation instead of using the cut throat system that profits from a long drawn-out fight.

I could have not said it better myself!

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