The Red Flags
{4:30 minutes to read} I recently conducted a consultation with a potential client. I had a feeling from the first call that this might be a problematic situation. The husband [...]
You Have the Right to Remain Silent
{4:00 minutes to read} That’s right. Not every comment, statement, speculation, inference ... requires a response, answer or argument. This took me a long time to learn. I grew up [...]
Walking the Razor’s Edge
{2:33 minutes to read} We mediators often do walk a very fine line indeed. We work with couples who have either waited for the mediation to start before bringing up [...]
What Is the Half Life of Guilt?
{3:48 minutes to read} There is never a time during which I co-conduct the training at the Center for Mediation & Training in New York City that I don’t come [...]
If You’re in the Process, You’re Making Progress
{4:00 minutes to read} This past December, the New York State Council on Divorce Mediation (NYSCDM) held its downstate 1-day symposium. Those dedicated mediators who attend these conferences (including the [...]
Information Overload 101
{3:54 minutes to read} Depending on which statistical analysis you’ve heard or read, the prevailing wisdom is that we 21st century, technology driven, heads down/hands poised on cell phones/tablets/computers generation, [...]
The Storm Before the Calm
{3:30 minutes to read} Jim* sat there during the third session, looking like someone who had been shot from a cannon. This was clearly still not easy for him, not [...]
One More Time and with Feeling!
{2:48 minutes to read} For those of you who read my blogs on a regular basis, please forgive the possible redundancy here. But a colleague of mine recently asked me [...]
The Party Pooper
{3:12 minutes to read} I was visiting friends on Fire Island this summer (We love those friends with houses out there!) and picked up the July issue of the monthly [...]